Being True to Yourself

I’m realizing lately that it’s easier for me to worry about others and often put my own needs last. If you had asked me if I do that, I would have answered no. But as my shoulders tighten, my neck knots up, and sleep escapes me, I become aware that something isn’t right. And after weeks of self examination, I am realizing that I still do what is generally what I think is better for others, even if it means sacrificing myself in the process.

I am usually very good at empathizing and taking all perspectives and people into consideration before making a decision. What I didn’t realize is that I often forget to include myself in that equation. What’s so hard to remember is that we have to take care of ourselves first. That others around us are effected by us, and our own unhappiness. As women (and a lot of men) we are taught to put others before ourselves. When putting yourself first, even in a non-selfish way, it often leads to guilt. I’m not sure how to get rid of this guilt, but it is a process. It needs to be done. When I suffer, my son, my work, my friends, and my health suffer. Taking care of myself first really is the most unselfish thing I can do. Now…to diminish the guilt involved….


About strokeofred

I am from Kansas and I have traveled all over the world. I am an artist, and I have a business brain. I love skirts and tennis shoes. I like to get dirty and ride motorcycles. I am sensitive and I can be mean. I love nature, and believe in protecting it. I love to laugh, and feel better after a good cry. I can be stubborn and impatient. I am constantly growing. I am open and free. I look to be inspired and love to inspire. I play guitar and secretly want to play drums. I have a puppy that brings me great joy. I love hugs, cuddling, holding hands...and wrestling. I love the mountains and the beach. I have to make a pilgrimage to the ocean at least twice a year to balance myself. I believe in balance in all things. Traveling is a passion, and meeting interesting people from all over the world is the perk! I have small town values, and big city dreams. I love beer, hate wine. I believe that what you put out comes back. I believe and live by the belief of treating others like you want to be treated. I enjoy stimulating conversation, and a good sense of humor. Caffeine is my drug of choice, and coffee over chess or good conversation is my luxury. I am strong but sometimes feel small. I strive to be my authentic me.
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