I have been slacking in the blog department, mostly because I’ve been busy living, so I won’t make any apologies.
Something has been on my mind a lot lately though. It keeps reoccurring in my life. Whether it’s my own perceptions, others perceptions of me, or even friends perceptions in lovers. It has made me contemplate the misconcieved perceptions.
It happens with me a lot. Often people see me as what they want me to be. I think they see a part of themselves that they are not brave enough to be. But then when they see other sides of me, the ones that are more like them, they find themselves disappointed. I have many times been left to feel like I let someone down. But honestly, I was just being me.
We all do it. We all find that lover, friend, or someone that we want to idealize just a little bit. We put them in the best light, see what we want to see. We make excuses for them when they don’t meet our expectations. Sometimes we’re so blind to who they really are, that when we finally see it, we are left crushed and wondering what happened. It’s not really fair to the person we are doing this to. It happens repeatedly to celebrities.
I think we have to make an effort to truly accept and see a person for who they truly are. To accept the good and the bad. Only when we can see someone for everything they are, and not our misconceived perception of what we hope they are, can we truly love people.